The big O topic for today! It really gets under my skin when I hear people describe what it means to make a woman c0m€. It’s really not just about what you do to her but how you make her feel! 😏 Thoughts? #pleasure #women #men #hottake #duh

Last week I chatted to you about what to do when desire is low so today let’s cover: How to talk about it with our partners?! Also, what helps YOU in these instances? Let me know! Have a great bank holiday weekend everyone 🌸 #communication #relationships #therapist #intimacy

Here to a new little series: Intimacy Simplified (based on Seggs & Relationship Therapy), shall we? Part #1 here we go! 🌸🫶🏾 #therapy #intimacy #relationships #connection

Come back for part #3 of the practical nuggets from seggs and relationship therapy series! 🌸 #therapy #relationships #intimacy #therapist

This one has been a long time coming so here we go finally! Here is another way of looking at it: Avoidance of intimacy is a sign of a problem, not the problem itself If we can get curious about it enough to understand what it signals, it’s one of the best sources of information for us about what changes our intimacy needs! If this is what you’re experiencing right now, what is it signalling for you? #avoidance #relationships #therapy #intimacy

The trick is to know well our needs so that we can both communicate what we actually want and set boundaries of what we don’t want, instead of avoiding intimacy altogether out of the fear of “where it will lead” Intimacy needs: 1. Seggsuality - Think your usual routine 2. Sensuality - Think prolonged kissing, skin-to-skin contact, passion, but no interc0ur$e 3. Affection - A long hug or just holding hands. 4. Quality Time - Deep conversation or time spent side by side. 5. Alone Time - The real need to just be by yourself is an intimacy need also! Honour that :) I’m Ester, a seggs and relationship therapist who loves to share little nuggets related to all things intimacy, relationships & therapy <3 #healing #therapy #desire #dating #relationships

About a year and a half ago I created a free resource that I uploaded on my website for free but I have never shared it here up until now! 👋🏾 I put a lot of time into it because I really wanted people who can’t afford therapy to have a starting point that can make a difference It is a covers the most important basis of understanding own pleasure & being able to communicate to our partner what we actually need to start enjoying intimacy again/more I really hope it can be of help to some! 🫶🏾 Comment “RESOURCE” & I will send you a link where you can download it for free and have it as a reference for whenever you’ll need it! As always, lots of love everyone!! 🌸 #therapy #relationships #healing #intimacy #therapist

This one always gets so many people mad but genuinely: Where if not in therapy, can people experience something that feels real and authentic? #therapy #healing #hottake #connection #whimsey

Lots of new faces here so I thought l’d come say thank you and hiii! :) I was long overdue for an updated introduction post that aligns with me now, not me a few years back, so finally here we go As ever, I’m still figuring out this platform, how I want to show up here, and share my voice online (!) But one thing that I’ve been thinking about lately is that I would like to figure out ways of connecting with you a bit more here. Hear about you, what you’re interested in, what may be of value! If I know one thing from my therapy work, it is that I learn just as much from my clients as they may be learning from the therapy process we’re in! It’s one of my favourite parts of being a therapist, and so I thought how can I get more of that into my online space?! Soooo... I will kick it off with a question today but I want to hear it alli!. Share what you have to share!! Here or dms too :) 🌸What therapy / seggs / relationship topics would you be interested in? 🌸

Naming what’s happening for me when I catch myself putting my tasks off has been the ONLY strategy that has helped! 🥲🙏🏽 I often find that I am either finding the first step confusing, I’m scared I’ll suck at this, or I’m feeling bored. Because I specialise in seggs and relationship therapy, I often see this when my clients tell me about how they find themselves putting intimacy off or dreading initiation of seggs. For me, it’s always a sign that there are unresolved emotions about intimacy/seggs driving this. It is when we get in touch with them, that we can start breaking out of the pattern. Also hi, I’m Ester :) I’m a seggs and relationship therapist who LOVES what she does and sharing about it here. If you like this post you might want to stick around. We talk all things therapy, intimacy, relationships, communication & just life (+ sometimes crafting 🤭) Have the bestest day! 🦋✨🫶🏾 #therapy #therapist #procrastinating #whimsey

Day job: therapist Night job: crafting, chaos, glitter, and needles ☠️😆 #therapy #knitting #sewing #crochet #chaos

A common relationship therapy situation: one partner is feeling mad about something their partner did -> they withdraw to test whether they notice 🥲 We all know it! A lot of couples would struggle a lot less if we were taught and shown proper communication techniques. ALL partners have differences and misalignments, but it’s whether or not they know how to communicate about them. So here is the bottom line: articulate for yourself first which need of yours is not being met & why it is important for you -> share these points with your partner instead of waiting for them to read the situation It’s faster, it helps with establishing transparent communication, and a lot more accurate! Caveat: sharing our feelings and internal experiences VS blaming our partners are two separate things! Shall I make a post about them soon? Would love to hear below if you’re interested or what topics would be helpful 🫶🏾 #therapy #relationships #dating

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